To the person who found this blog searching for “don’t be too picky when dating guys” –
DO.
DO BE PICKY WHEN DATING GUYS. Be as picky as you fucking like. Don’t let your mom or your dad or your best friend tell you otherwise. You will bring NO GOOD upon yourself by putting up with shitty assholes in boys’ clothing. BE PICKY.
Just so you know.
I wouldn’t date anyone who made a rape joke.
I wouldn’t date anyone who got pissed off when I called out his/her misogyny.
I wouldn’t date anyone who thought it was my duty to “put out”.
To add to/specify Mortality’s list:
no porn
no sexual pleasuring via giving or taking in dehumanizing acts
must have feminism or women-centered values–no cookies for it
no political/humanitarian apathetics
no pawns/sheep/spineless whiners
no racism, classism, sexism, ageism, sizeism, etc. apologists
no narcissists
no right wing, gun-toting, pro war, militant robots
no liberal relativists, post modern skeeze buckets
no Nice Guys either
And that’s just off the top of my head.
Yeah, that sounds like a recipe for disaster.
So, how come when men are picky, we’re just told we have “impossible and unfair standards”?
Also, to this:
no sexual pleasuring via giving or taking in dehumanizing acts
Well, I hope you never intend to ask any male for oral.
must have feminism or women-centered values–no cookies for it
Uh, no. Just…no. Why would a man be “woman-centered”? That’s remarkably and ridiculously selfish to even THINK of asking.
“Hi, I know you’re male, but I want you to put that aside. Don’t you realize you should ONLY care about women? Women should be more important than men to you, because we are!”
No. Just, no.
How about “Don’t ask someone to do something you wouldn’t be willing to do yourself”.
So, don’t try to force a male to subvert who he is, in order to place women in a superior place in his concerns.
Hahaha, you’re a douchebag, Black Thirteen. This one’s funny, but any more comments from you will be promptly deleted! :) (I suppose you think that’s censorship since you seem to think that asking for cunnilingus is a human rights infraction. Ah well.)
Because Black Thirteen is having difficulty comprehending: Dude, I already told you I’d delete your comments before you even asked any “valid” questions. So you can take your ball and go play elsewhere, ‘kay?
Heh.
Choosing not to date someone unless they respect you and members of your gender = forcing males to subvert who they are?
Oh dear. BlackThirteen. Oh dear.
“Well, I hope you never intend to ask any male for oral.”
That’s *your* problem Black Thirteen. Lots of people can keep dehumanization out of oral sex.
And zomg! BT, you reveal too much too quickly–slooooow down. I’ve seen a lot of MRAs take at least 2 comments to reveal their true nature.
The belief that women are equal (feminism/women’s-centered values) is akin to forcing “a male to subvert who he is”? Wow, even I give more males credit than that BT.
Maybe I should be glad Patriarchy hasn’t issued you your Good Guy veneer yet. I can see you coming from 1000 cyber miles out ( btw, this is Exhibit A proving my filtering process *works* people).
Awww geeezzz: somebody actually dates these kinds of dudes :/
Thirteen’s just bitter. Some gal broke his heart, and now he thinks all women are lying whores. *shrug* What a surprise.
BT’s sad because I keep deleting his comments, but I wanted to preserve a couple things he said for posterity.
And in the very next comment:
Rhetorical question: Is it really an attack if the “victim” agrees with the assessment? I shall ponder.
I think it qualifies as an observation, rather than an attack, when the ‘victim’ demonstrates the accuracy of the observation.
I am in love with this blog. For reals.
/swoon